It's summer time, and Tisha Be'av, when Jews mourn the destruction of the Temple in Jerusalem, is less than three weeks away. Normally during this period, religious Jews tend to focus on themes relating to the need for greater Jewish unity, in line with the talmudic statement that it was the very absence of such cohesion which led to our destruction and exile some two millennia ago. But these aren't normal days - far from it - and the mercury in the thermometer isn't the only thing heating up. Ever since the conversion crisis erupted nearly three months, the war of words between religious Zionists and haredim has grown increasingly fiery, threatening to drive a stake right through the heart of Orthodox Jewry. Indeed, one of the consequences of the ruling by the haredi-dominated Rabbinical High Court retroactively annulling conversions performed by religious Zionist Rabbi Haim Druckman was to swing open the floodgates of hateful intra-Orthodox rhetoric. Spokesmen for both sides quickly manned the barricades, and wasted little time hurling insults and invective at each other. On May 7, for example, Bar-Ilan University's Dr. Asher Cohen wrote an article in Makor Rishon comparing the Lithuanian branch of haredi Orthodoxy to the murderous Taliban in Afghanistan, and decried what he described as "haredi halachic Bolshevism." Is this the language of respectful discourse? The haredi media was no less discourteous in its approach. The daily Yated Ne'eman, in its reporting on the controversy, repeatedly refused to use the title "rabbi" when referring to Druckman. And on May 25, the editorial in the haredi daily Hamodia denounced Druckman's conversions in harsh terms, belittling them as "one big act of clowning." These are just a few choice pearls of the cruel and undignified attacks that have been launched by both sides against one another in a decidedly unspiritual-like display of deprecation. Even normally cooler heads have started to join the fray, as a growing number of moderate religious Zionist rabbis speak openly of "freeing Israel" from "ultra-Orthodox hegemony". As an Orthodox Jew, I find this clash deeply troubling. WHILE THE dispute between the two camps pre-dates the establishment of the state, driven by ideological differences over Zionism, events in recent years have further heightened the discord. Disagreements over how to oppose the 2005 Gaza withdrawal, and controversy surrounding the observance of shmita, brought to the fore a sense of loathing and even hate that simply has no place in a spiritually-oriented community. Frankly speaking, this is not the Torah way. And if cooler heads don't prevail, and soon, it could cause lasting damage to the inner fabric of Orthodox Jewry, potentially tearing the community apart. The dangers inherent in such a split are obvious. As it stands now, Orthodox Jews are a minority among world Jewry, and there is nothing to be gained by a division among the ranks. Moreover, so much of what Orthodox Jewry believes in, from traditional values to public decency, is currently under assault. Can we really afford to be expending valuable time and energy excoriating one another when everything we hold dear is under attack? We must find a way to mend the schism within Orthodoxy. â€¢ Step number one in healing the rift: tone down the rhetoric and turn up the respect. After all, on nearly all the major theological issues, from the centrality of Torah to the primacy of Halacha, we basically agree with one another. Sure, there are differences, and they are far from insignificant, but personal attacks and insults, public humiliation and disgrace, must be banished once and for all from our civil discourse. â€¢ Step number two is surprisingly simple: create an exchange program between religious Zionist and haredi yeshivot. Once a month, on every Rosh Hodesh, students from religious Zionist and haredi academies should get together and study Torah and Talmud. Let them pore over biblical passages in unison, grapple with the complexities of the medieval Tosafists and stretch their minds together trying to figure out the meaning of Maimonides. That experience alone would generate newfound mutual respect on both sides, and would regularly serve to underline just how much the Torah can bring us together. It would also tear down the prejudice and preconceived notions that prevail, and in communities that value scholarship, no one could possibly object to the simple act of learning and studying together. â€¢ Step number three: bring pressure to bear on public figures in the religious Zionist and haredi worlds to take active steps towards forging greater unity. These can include organizing annual summits of leading rabbis from the various streams of Orthodoxy, the issuance of joint declarations, and the publication of compilations of halachic works by both Zionist and haredi rabbis. JEWISH HISTORY is replete with heated disputes. But now especially, as Tisha Be'av nears, and the embers of the conversion crisis continue to burn, Orthodoxy's varied adherents would do well to recall the words of Rabbi Naftali Tzvi Yehuda Berlin, the famed Netziv of Volozhin. In his introduction to the book of Genesis, he cites one overriding reason to explain why the generation that endured the destruction of Jerusalem at the hands of the Romans warranted such punishment nearly 20 centuries ago. "Due to the baseless hatred in their hearts towards each other," the Netziv wrote, "they suspected that those who disagreed with them on religious matters were Sadducees or heretics. This brought them to misguided bloodshed and many other evils until the Temple was destroyed." At this critical point in our nation's saga, it should be clear, we can ill afford to replicate that fatal mistake.