The need for loving words

‘The entire House of Israel wept over Aaron’(Numbers 20:29)

Hukat; Numbers 20:17 521 (photo credit: Israel Weiss)
Hukat; Numbers 20:17 521
(photo credit: Israel Weiss)
Why was Moses, the greatest prophet who ever lived and who sacrificed a princedom in Egypt to take the Hebrews out of Egypt, denied entry into the Land of Israel? Was it because he struck the rock with his staff rather than having spoken to it? But it was God, after all, who commanded him to “take the staff, gather together the witness-congregation, and speak to the rock” (Numbers 20:8). And previously, shortly after the splitting of the Red (Reed) Sea but before the Revelation at Sinai, God had commanded him to strike the rock with his staff to bring forth water for the nation. Apparently, striking the rock could not have been such a heinous crime.
I believe that the key to our understanding of the incident of the rock lies in a curious contrast between Moses and Aaron hinted at in our text, which highlights the profound tragedy – as well as the exalted majesty – within the unique persona of Moshe rabbenu, Moses our teacher.
Our portion of Hukat also records the death of Aaron the High Priest: “And Aaron died there at the top of the mountain... and the entire house of Israel wept over Aaron for 30 days.” At the conclusion of the Pentateuch and amid great praise, the text teaches regarding Moses’s passing: “and the children of Israel wept over Moses at the plains of Moab for 30 days.” Rashi commented: “the children of Israel refers to the males, but regarding Aaron it was written ‘the entire house of Israel wept,’ which includes the females; this was because Aaron pursued peace between neighbors and between husbands and wives.” Apparently, Aaron was a more popular religious leader than was Moses.
The Bible also hints at the reason for this. In the beginning of the Book of Exodus, after the occurrence of the burning bush, whenever God proposes that Moses assume leadership over Israel, the prophet is reluctant to do so. “I am not a man of words... I am heavy of mouth and heavy of tongue,” he demurs, usually understood to mean that he stutters and stammers.
Indeed, a bit later on the Bible reports that the people do not listen to Moses “because of impatience and hard work” – usually interpreted to mean that the enslaved and persecuted Hebrews were so embroiled in their toil and suffering that they lacked the patience and vision to hear Moses’s goal, to even dream of freedom and independence.
Rabbi Levi Ben-Gershon, the philosopher and biblical commentator (Languedoc, France, 1288-1344), takes the text differently: The Hebrews do not listen to Moses because of Moses’s impatience and hard work (avoda, Divine service).
Moses was a prophet, a master in jurisprudence, a philosopher-theologian; he had spent 60 years in Midian – far from the crowd – attempting to come close to God, and he was continually developing his intellectual and spiritual powers so that his “active intellect” could “kiss” God’s active intellect, so that he could divine God’s will and communicate God’s Torah to the Israelites (Maimonides, Guide 2: 32, 45).
Moses recognized his own prophetic potential in the realm of the intellectual and spiritual; he craved and gloried in his fellowship with the Divine (“month to month”). But he also realized that to be a leader of the people you must be a superb shepherd of your flock; you must get into the details of their daily lives, you must be involved in the often petty arguments between neighbors and picayune problems between husbands and wives. This requires the patience of “small talk” and human camaraderie, whereas Moses could reach the level of communicating God’s Torah only because his soul constantly yearned for “heavy talk” – God talk.
Moses knew he would not have the patience to “win over the nation” to his side by drinking l’haims with them and dancing at their weddings.
Hence God suggests to Moses that Aaron “be his spokesman to the people, that [Aaron] be his mouth” (Exodus 4:15) – for small talk. Thus Moses succeeded in communicating a Divine Torah for the generations, but failed in convincing the Hebrews to conquer Israel in his generation.
For the contrast between Moses the man of God and the necessity for a person of the people became only greater with every passing year in the desert. After all, in the beginning everyone felt only gratitude to the individual who removed their pain of enslavement. But unfortunately, such gratitude barely survives the first dearth of water. And so when Korah rebels, not one Hebrew stands up for Moses, and when the prophet asks to meet “in his office” with Dathan and Abiram, they refuse to come! So when the Hebrews again kvetch for water, God tells Moses to take his staff of leadership – not to strike in punishment the hard, stiff-necked rock which symbolized ungrateful Israel, but rather to speak to the Hebrews with words of love and the empowerment of the leniency and softness of the Oral Law, which will and must emerge from them as they continue to mature, as they partner with God in completing both His Torah and His World (Rabbenu Tzadok).
But alas, the ungrateful nation has worn Moses down; he can only strike them (the rock) in frustration and refer to them as rebels. And since Moses can no longer love and empower Israel with loving words of the Oral Law, Moses’s leadership must end in the desert.Shabbat shalom.The writer is the founder and chancellor of Ohr Torah Stone colleges and graduate programs, and chief rabbi of Efrat.