A mother, most probably a widow with only one daughter, had arranged for her
daughter’s marriage to a groom named Joseph.
Unfortunately, after the
wedding, her daughter fell ill and seems to have been incapacitated for quite a
while. This woman, the wife of Abu Sar, described her plight in a petition to
the Nagid Masliah in Egypt. She was beside herself and could not figure out how
to extricate herself from her predicament.
The son-in-law traveled,
presumably for business purposes, although the reason for his travel was not
specified. While he was away, his mother in-law cared for her daughter to the
best of her ability, but she apparently was short on funds. She explained that
she had sold all of her daughter’s belongings in order to provide for her; all
that remained was the blanket in which the young woman was wrapped. She must
have been staying home the entire day to be with her sick daughter, for she
wrote that no one had spoken to either of them in a year and a half! It
certainly sounds as though they were completely isolated from the
The urgency grew as the petitioner explained that she had just
received news from a cousin that her son-in-law had been murdered in Nasrawah (a
city in Egypt without a known Jewish settlement). A messenger had arrived to
inform her that she had to pay a dinar. She did not specify why they were
demanding payment from her; perhaps it was to transport or bury her son-in-law’s
body. She was frantic and desperate, for she had no viable means of paying the
dinar. It seems that the person who was en route to demand this payment from her
was unaware of the fact that she had no funds whatsoever available.
letter-writer’s sick daughter was now a widow. She turned to the Nagid as
someone who could solve this problem because she saw herself as an abandoned
woman with no means of coping with such a stressful situation. The Nagid was
committed to aiding orphans and widows; the assumption here is that he helped
these women in distress.
BUFARAJ moved to Fustat, but his wife had no
interest whatsoever in joining him. She sent him a letter containing mixed
messages. On one hand, she asked to be reunited with her husband in happy
circumstances and in good health. It is unclear as to when her husband had
relocated, but the wife was fending for herself and was not particularly pleased
about this. In addition, she stated that since his departure she had not
received any letters from him. She felt spurned and told him that if he had
turned his back on her, then God would rescue her.
On the other hand,
under no circumstances was she willing to leave her abode. Perhaps she was
living near her family (although she did not mention this) or friends; perhaps
she had misgivings or qualms about city life. She did not tell us. But she made
it perfectly clear that she not willing to move to Cairo. She declared that were
she do to so, the two of them would be at one another’s throats, fighting
continuously. Since they would not be happy together there, it was preferable
for her to remain where she was rather than join him. She did not want to live a
life full of dissension and discord, and would not be
Unfortunately we have no idea how long these two had been married;
there is no mention of children, whether they were newlyweds or about to
celebrate their silver anniversary. We also do not know how long the husband had
been in Fustat. His wife did not specify an address of a domicile in the letter,
but rather directed it to the marketplace, presumably where he worked or where a
friend, relative or colleague of his worked.
The address used was a store
in the Berber shuk. If Bu Faraj received this short but clearly worded letter,
perhaps he wrapped up his business in the big city and returned home. On the
other hand, perhaps he decided that marital bliss was best achieved by keeping
his distance from his wife. The author is a professor of Jewish history at the
Schechter Institute, and the academic editor of the journal Nashim.
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