Medium Dorit Ben-Dor.
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‘Mediumship was never a goal for me, I was born with the ability,” says Dorit Ben-Dor. “Through mediumship I can get to the point where an idea or understanding of a situation comes to me according to my will. Mediumship is something that happens to everyone more than once a day. Any idea that comes to us suddenly without us recalling a thought that provoked it is a kind of mediumship.”
Did you feel this gift burning within you since childhood?
Ben-Dor, a seventh-generation Jerusalemite, is a single mother and lives in Ramat Efal. How did your professional career begin? Until 1998, my life was basically conventional with a promising career in the capital market. That year I decided to embark on a new path that would allow me to utilize the unique talent I discovered when I was young, in order to analyze and diagnose the personal situation of those turning to me for advice and to reveal the options available to them. Throughout my years of work at my clinic, I’ve learned to recognize how valuable my talent is in accelerating processes. In recent years, I mainly do personal business consulting, combining my experience in the business world with a profound and practical life philosophy.
I didn’t feel a burning need. I wasn’t even aware of my exceptional talent; I thought that everyone had the ability to foresee things. When I grew up and saw the reactions of those I was advising who repeatedly asked me ‘How do you know this?’ I didn’t have a logical answer to give them.What is special about your work?
Three basic principles: a focused understanding of the person involved that precedes an understanding of the business; a look from above from a point that enables a farther and wider perspective; and my ability to tailor transmission of the message to the person in the best possible way for him/ her to absorb it.Who are your clients?
I work with businesspeople, managers, entrepreneurs who want to expand and focus their activities. During the municipal elections of one of Israel’s major cities, someone from the campaign staff contacted me, and I ended up working with the mayoral candidate. It was really gratifying.
This isn’t a conventional profession, so how do people react when you tell them you’re a medium? At the beginning, it raised a lot of questions. But today, I work with senior businesspeople in Israel and London who see my abilities as an advantage that enables effective management of challenges and provides high financial value.What interesting things happen in your work?
I had a client, a businessman and industrialist, who asked me for help in expanding his business. He had trouble starting out and began working with one van. After speaking with him, I identified excessive concern and fear in relation to his business. His fear of loss was apparent, and I understood that a plan was needed for starting out small and gradually growing without his noticing. After two years, he thanked me for the strength he received for growing.
In another situation, a banker in London had an important decision to make regarding negotiating. He asked for advice in the process, as he felt he couldn’t make a decision that wasn’t emotional. From speaking with him and understanding his personality and his emotional and passionate way of life, I realized that it was necessary for him to stop negotiations at once because the price of ‘being right’ was too high. Many mistakes in business are an expression of the manager’s or business owner’s bad relationship with the business.
A CEO asked me to do business consulting in his organization and invited me to a meeting at his office. After discussing his business with me, I reflected to him where exactly the energy drain was taking place and why communication breakdowns were occurring in all departments.
There was also a business owner in the field of devices who asked my advice after finding himself stuck with cash flow problems because of complex management of the business. After he described his business to me, I made him aware of another business that existed in his office, and I recommended developing this service to support cash flow. He immediately began the task, and today that business is operating.
Tips for success
From the book The Ten Commandments by Dorit Ben- Dor, about freedom of choice, a guide to releasing bonds that restrain and confine us; bonds that stem from culture, psychology and personal history: The Ten Commandments that were given on Mount Sinai are codes given to a group of people who left Egypt, constituting an excellent toolbox for emerging from slave mentality to a mentality of freedom, where freedom is freedom of choice. People learn and have a lot of knowledge, running between workshops but never passing from slavery to freedom. Over and over, I meet people who live under constraints; I hear “I didn’t have a choice”; “I must”; “I have to.”
It’s true that life is not only desires and we have obligations, but these statements are said with a lot of pain and suffering. When we choose our obligations wholeheartedly, these statements are said painlessly and at times are not said at all.
“But even beyond our obligations, our choices are not free from exterior and unconscious powers, powers that have such a strong influence that we perceive them as part of us,” says Ben-Dor. “There is no real freedom without liberation from these powers.
Freedom of choice is the central message of this book, and the means of achieving it lies within the text.”
The book has been translated into English and is available on Amazon.