There was nothing quite like the funeral of Rabbi Menachem Froman, just as there
was no one quite like Rav Menachem, as we called him. For hours the thousands of
mourners who gathered in the synagogue of his settlement, Tekoa, on Tuesday wept
as we sang the songs he loved – songs of devotion and longing for God, songs
against fear, songs of the Land of Israel.
Each of us was taking leave of
his own Rav Menachem, the man of paradox who helped found the settlement
movement and continued to believe passionately in the right of Jews to live in
all parts of the Land of Israel, even as he came to promote a two-state solution
and rapproachement between Judaism and Islam.
For me he was a teacher and
a partner in interfaith adventures.
I learned to share his vision: that,
however improbably, it was religious Jews who were best positioned to make peace
with the Palestinians and the Muslim world generally.
In the Middle East,
believed Rav Menachem, only a peace fashioned from religious language and
sensibility would be accepted as legitimate. One reason the peace process had
failed until now, he concluded, was that it had been a dialogue between secular
elites on both sides. A European-style rational approach to peacemaking – the
“Oslo process” – would never take root here.
Rav Menachem was constantly
phoning me with some new plan to advance religious peace. “Who do you know who
can get me to Obama?” he demanded.
Ramadan was approaching: Did I think
that Bibi (Binyamin Netanyahu) would agree to send holiday greetings to Egypt’s
leader Mohamed Morsi, softening his opposition to contacts with Israelis? Should
Rav Menachem try to join the Palestinian delegation to the UN, where he would
affirm the Jewish people’s right to statehood? And then there was Turkey: No,
insisted Rav Menachem, the State of Israel shouldn’t compromise its honor by
apologizing to the Turkish government for having defended itself against the
Gaza flotilla, but an apology from our chief rabbis, in the language of
believers, wouldn’t sound ingratiating but rather generous.
elusive Middle East peace became, the more vigorously he pursued it. Not just
because Israel needed peace to survive in the long term, but because peace was
itself the value. Even when I despaired of reconciliation with the Palestinians
and wearied of his endless enthusiasm, Rav Menachem reminded me that we have no
choice. “Bakesh shalom v’radfehu”: “We are commanded not just to seek peace but
to pursue it.”
For Rav Menachem, peacemaking was a mystery of the heart,
a mission that required mystics no less than diplomats.
Love for one’s
fellow mortal being endowed with an eternal soul, faith in God’s capacity for
the miraculous: Those were the qualities necessary to bring peace, especially in
this sacred land.
He taught me that, to make peace with the Muslim world,
one needs not only to honor Islam but to love it – cherish its fearless heart,
the power of its surrender, the wisdom of its frank confrontation with human
Once we went together to a mosque in Nuseirat, a refugee camp
in Gaza. It was the time before the second intifada, when such adventures were
still possible. We’d been invited by a community of Sufi mystics to join their
zikr, the dance that combines chanting and breath with vigorous
For nearly an hour we danced together with our Muslim fellow
believers in God. “Allah!” Rav Menachem repeatedly cried out in
After the zikr, we sat with members of the community, and Rav
Menachem explained why he had come here. Two thousand years ago, he said, my
people sinned and were expelled by God from this land. But now God has brought
us back, and I want to learn from my Muslim brothers who didn’t leave here how
to worship God in this land.
It was an extraordinary moment: A rabbi –
from a West Bank settlement! – was telling Palestinian refugees that God had
brought us back to this land. And they listened to him – because he had come to
learn from them, because he was speaking to them as one religious person to
another, because he made no apology for Jewish indigenousness.
was another lesson I learned from Rav Menachem: Peace with the Palestinians
required affirming our right to be here. We didn’t return home because of
anti-Semitism, but because we belong to this land – and because it was God’s
will that we return. That is a language that may not resonate at a Peace Now
demonstration, but it is the only Israeli language that has a chance of being
heard in a mosque in Nuseirat.
Rav Menachem insisted to his Palestinian
partners that the settlers weren’t colonialists but, like them, children of this
land. And he insisted that his fellow settlers confront the presence of their
Palestinian neighbors and accept their right to self-determination. His message
to both sides was that peace becomes possible when settlement is separated from
I told Rav Menachem I was dubious about Jews living safely
in a Palestinian state. He acknowledged my fears, but convinced me that the
principle was still worth fighting for – that just as Palestinian Israelis live
in Jewish state, so should Jewish Israelis be able to live in a Palestinian
We argued constantly – about his outreach to Hamas, about whether
the Palestinian Authority was really prepared to accept a Jewish state in any
borders, about the chances of a two-state solution anytime soon. Sometimes I
found myself to his left, sometimes to his right. And that was another precious
lesson of Rav Menachem: Israel’s dilemmas would not be solved with a dogmatic
Was he left-wing? Certainly: He advocated a
two-state solution, met regularly with leaders of the PA, even with the late
Sheikh Ahmed Yassin of Hamas.
Was Rav Menachem right-wing? Of course: He
believed in the right of the Jewish people to live in all parts of the Land of
Israel, opposed the uprooting of settlements in Gaza in 2005, once told a friend
that if Tekoa were evacuated he would die.
Not your typical settler,
journalists invariably noted when they wrote about him – as if there were such a
thing as a typical settler. Or, for that matter, a typical peace activist. Rav
Menachem’s very being – a settler peace activist – mocked the way we label one
Rav Menachem was one of the very few among us to understand that
the fate of the Jewish people in the 21st century will in large part be
determined by the nature of our relationship with the Muslim world. And so he
reached out indiscriminately – not just to moderates but also to extremists, in
part because, as he knew from his own life, people could change.
that many of us standing at his grave made the same silent commitment: In the
absence left by Rav Menachem’s departure, the work of the heart must go
on.Yossi Klein Halevi is a senior fellow at the Shalom Hartman Institute
and a member of its iEngage Project research team. Learn more about the project
at iengage.org.il. He is the author of At the Entrance to the Garden of
Eden: A Jew’s Search for God with Christians and Muslims in the Holy Land.