No holds barred: The 10 Commitments

‘THE MESSAGE is live for your nation, live for your country, live for your people. Live for a cause larger than yourself.’

January 2, 2017 22:19
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Young people wave Israeli flags during the Jerusalem Day march on June 5. (photo credit: MARC ISRAEL SELLEM)


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A new year brings a need for new ideas and new commitments. Here are 10 ideas to guide you for the next 12 months.

1. Sins of omission are much greater than sins of commission.

There can be no doubt that I regret the bad things I’ve done. I wish I had never made so many mistakes. But far worse are the good things that I have not done. Relationships are sometimes undone by a transgressions, but more often relationships die of neglect. I have seen many men and women bounce back from mistakes, but have seen far more people slowly lose their vitality and passion for life because they lack purpose and have not found a great cause to which to commit themselves.

2. A person is not by their bank accounts but by the quality of their relationships.

Sounds simple, I know. But it’s a truism we trample on every single day. Our society uses money as a commodity with which to purchase self-esteem. The net result is that people spend their lives in acts of accumulation, as if in millennia of human history we had not advanced from being hunter-gatherers. But the greatest problem in the world today, and the one first identified in the Bible as the mother of all human challenges, is loneliness. All the money and status in the world will not make you feel appreciated unconditionally for something you feel is intrinsic to your being. So cultivate and never neglect core relationships.

3. Confer dignity on all whom you meet. Make others feel important.

Easier said than done, but so amazingly rewarding. God gave each of us an infinite supply of dignity which we can sprinkle on others, like confetti thrown on a bride and groom at their wedding. By simply being attentive to people, by valuing their opinion, by expressing gratitude, by showing appreciation, we make others feel like they matter. There is nothing they wish for more. Most of what we do in life is an attempt to acquire significance. So if you crave to be needed so much, grant that same gift to others as well. Part of this is giving compliments. I’ve always been confused by compliments. They’re free. They’re so easy to offer. So why are we so stingy with them? Watch as you give someone a compliment. They come to life in an instant. Make it sincere. Everyone has something to praise. Find it and praise it.

4. Live fearlessly.

That doesn’t mean we should live carelessly, but there is a difference between living in fear and living out of a sense of caution. While fear is a hysterical response to an imagined threat, caution is a calculated reaction to a real and present danger.

5. Force yourself to forgive.

I know it’s not easy. We all feel wronged by others and forgiving is the most unnatural act of all. Why overlook the harm done to us by others, especially if they haven’t yet taken responsibility for what they’ve done? Because nursing grudges makes us old before our time. We become bitter and twisted. Forgiveness brings us back to a state of innocence.

6. Parents: make your children feel valued. Stop thinking that your objective as a parent is to make your child a “success.”

I have seen so many children, successful on paper, who are still empty inside because they were never made to feel like they were intrinsically valuable. Your principal role isn’t to get them into Harvard. It’s not to inspire them to launch an Internet startup. The job of a parent is to validate their children not through their doing but through their being. I love you because you are. There is nothing you can do that will ever make me love you more, and there is nothing you can do that will ever make me love you less.

7. Live for the Jewish people.

OK, this lesson sounds like it’s for Jews, but it’s not. The message is live for your nation, live for your country, live for your people. Live for a cause larger than yourself. Only when we connect with something eternal is our being lent a sense of eternity. I mention the Jewish people not only because I’m Jewish but because my people have been imperiled throughout their existence. Israel’s very survival is threatened to this day by genocidal enemies that surround it. By fighting to defend Israel we connect with millennia of our compatriots who have preceded us and who have made the Jewish people one of the most influential in history. The same is true of fighting for America and all that it represents: freedom, liberty, human rights and a commitment to the infinite and equal value of the human person.

8. Read history and know what has preceded you.

Sounds unexpected, but I can tell you that my love of history has placed my existence, my daily trials, my constant challenges in perspective and has given me a sense of what human beings can ultimately contribute.

9. Honor your parents. Cherish your spouse.

Challenging, I know. The people who give us the most love in life are often the ones who can give us the most hurt. It’s almost inevitable in the parent-child relationship and the husband-wife partnership that love and pain will exist concurrently. But nothing tests our ability to appreciate and lend gratitude more than truly loving and respecting our parents and the partner with whom we share our lives. And nothing guarantees God’s blessing more than and cherishing and showing living gratitude to our soul-mate.

10. Love God and serve him.

This may come to you in different ways, either through formal religion or something more elastic, but bring God into your life. Know that every day is a miracle. Stop sweating the small stuff and know that it’s all part of a larger plan. Find your place in that plan. And never lose your sense of awe, majesty and wonder.

The author, “America’s rabbi,” whom The Washington Post calls “the most famous rabbi in America,” has just published The Israel Warrior: Standing Up for the Jewish State from Campus to Street Corner. Follow him on Twitter @RabbiShmuley.

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