Mother of Oct. 7 fallen soldier finds ways to put the pieces back together

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 Mosaics made by family members of soldiers who fell on October 7. The writer says that the mosaic is supposed to act as a metaphor to re-piecing the parts of one's life after a huge tragedy (photo credit: sivanrahavmeir.com)
Mosaics made by family members of soldiers who fell on October 7. The writer says that the mosaic is supposed to act as a metaphor to re-piecing the parts of one's life after a huge tragedy
(photo credit: sivanrahavmeir.com)

This week's Torah portion describes the Tabernacle, the sanctuary and spiritual center that accompanied the Children of Israel in the desert. It describes the instructions for building the Tabernacle, down to the minutiae. What is the importance of all these small details? Here are two explanations:

The first is what Professor Dan Ariely calls the "IKEA effect." If we buy a ready-made dresser or table, we feel much less connected to it than if we bought a piece of furniture at IKEA and assembled it ourselves. Similarly, the fact that we were involved in building the Tabernacle ourselves connects us to it on a far deeper level than if it had descended from Heaven.

The second is brought by Professor Nehama Leibowitz, who pointed out that the Torah describes the creation of the world in only 34 verses, while the building of the Tabernacle is described in 400 verses. How can it be that the entire cosmos, the stars, the galaxies, the oceans, and even the creation of man are described briefly, while the "synagogue" of the people in the desert is described in such great detail? Professor Leibowitz explained that the Torah is not interested primarily in the universe but rather in man. The Torah is less interested in what God does than in what man is meant to do in following God's instructions.

These explanations are pertinent not only to the desert Tabernacle, but to all the small, routine, yet vital acts and mitzvahs that we do today.

Putting the pieces back together

Sharon Negri, the mother of Neriya Negri, who fell in battle on Simchat Torah, shared her experience attending a mosaic workshop at a time when she still felt devastated by her loss. The process, which involves shattering whole tiles into small pieces and then carefully reassembling them, emerged as a powerful metaphor for her own shattered reality in the wake of her son's death. 

"It felt profoundly meaningful and significant," she said. "I was gathering up the pieces, but not only that, I was making a whole new creation out of them. I see this not only as a Divine command but also as a personal demand from myself: to take my broken heart, my broken reality, and to create life. A new, different life, but life."

 Residents from Sderot take a ''victory photo'' in the Ramade Hotel in Jerusalem, where they lived for four months as evacuees, before being able to return home. (credit: sivanrahavmeir.com)
Residents from Sderot take a ''victory photo'' in the Ramade Hotel in Jerusalem, where they lived for four months as evacuees, before being able to return home. (credit: sivanrahavmeir.com)

Sharon added that she feels this is what the Jewish people are going through at this time. "The destruction has been so great, we might think there is no hope. But we must create, with God's help, something new out of the broken pieces. Our story will continue."

A unique mission of support for Israel

I recently met a group of 30 women from Great Neck, NY, who visited Israel to express their solidarity. I’ve welcomed many missions to Israel, but this was my first encounter with women from the Mashadi community, a Persian-Jewish community with a history of self-sacrifice for their Judaism. They told me about their ancestors in Iran who insisted on observing mitzvot even though it was illegal and who were subjected to harassment because of it. Those brave and committed generations of Iranian Jews can give us strength and inspiration in these challenging times. 

During our discussions, it became clear that each woman on this mission had embraced the role of an ambassador for Israel. Back in the United States, they will have to confront antisemitism and ignorance head-on. Their firsthand experiences in Israel, from witnessing the devastation at Kibbutz Be’eri to observing the rehabilitation department at Sheba Hospital and meeting the families of the hostages, have provided them with a unique perspective. They've seen the unity and spirit that define our country. Now, they bear the responsibility to convey their observations accurately and compellingly and share the reality of Israel's situation with the world.

Sderot's newest residents

I received this victory photo from a friend from Sderot. "Tonight we said goodbye to the Ramada Hotel in Jerusalem," she wrote to me. "After four months of fighting, our community is returning home to the city of Sderot in the south. All the babies in the picture were born here since we arrived at the hotel. This is the next generation of the new Sderot, who are returning home. Mazel tov!"

Praying for the Hostages

Last week, I said with great joy that, when praying for the hostages, the names of Luis and Fernando could be removed from the list. Since then, I have received many requests for a list of the hostages that remain in Gaza. So, first of all, here is the link.

Since the outbreak of the war, Matanya Weinstock devoted himself to this project. He collected the full names of the hostages, including the full names of their mothers (as is the custom when praying for someone's health or welfare), and he also made sure to include the full names of the non-Jews (most of them foreign workers) among the hostages. 

These lists – a spiritual "Iron Dome" — have been printed throughout Israel and the entire world and are seen in synagogues and schools, where Shabbat candles are lit, at the graves of tzadikim, and in other communal spaces. 

Unfortunately, Matanya’s son was seriously wounded in Gaza. So, we will now add his name, Yonatan Yitzhak ben Ateret, to the list for a speedy and complete recovery.

A Letter to Sinwar

Seven-year-old Kama Hochman lives in Bnei Netzarim, a charming little town in southern Israel. Her father is presently serving in the reserves in Khan Yunis. This week, she decided to write a letter to Hamas leader Yahya Sinwar. I think that this simple, innocent missive holds far more truth than the decisions handed down at the Hague or in the UN:

Hi Sinwar,

I'm Kama. I am in 2nd grade and live in the Gaza periphery. I want to tell you that God chose the nation of Israel to be His people. So, even if you try to kill us, we will win. I hope you get caught and that the nation of Israel will live quietly and in peace.

Translated by Yehoshua Siskin.