Why New Jersey’s haredim stalled a bill banning child marriages

Agudath Israel of America, the national haredi organization, says it supports the bill but that its provisions are too strict.

A HAREDI wedding in Bnei Brak (photo credit: MARC ISRAEL SELLEM)
A HAREDI wedding in Bnei Brak
(photo credit: MARC ISRAEL SELLEM)
A bill that would ban teenagers under 18 from getting married in New Jersey has been stalled because of opposition from the state’s haredi (ultra-Orthodox) community.
Agudath Israel of America, the national haredi organization, says it supports the bill but that its provisions are too strict. Citing child marriages that take place in observant Jewish communities, it wants to see an exemption made for older teenagers who want to wed.
“[Saying that] any marriage under the age of 18 is illegal seems a bit extreme” said Rabbi Avi Schnall, the group’s New Jersey director. “It’s a cultural thing, mostly in the Sephardic community; culturally they tend to get married younger. It’s not a Biblical obligation — most of our girls don’t get married under 18 — it’s a cultural thing. It’s part of their heritage.”
Jewish activists are driving both sides of the debate. The main group lobbying in favor of the bill is Unchained at Last, a nonprofit that opposes underage marriage. The group’s founder, Fraidy Reiss – who grew up haredi – says child marriage, primarily of girls to older men, is an abusive practice that can damage children emotionally and physically.
“Marriage before 18 can so easily be a forced marriage or it can turn into a forced marriage,” Reiss told JTA. “You’re subjecting this girl to a human rights abuse. It destroys girls’ health, their education, their economic opportunities. It significantly increases the risk that they’ll be beaten by their spouse. It literally destroys girls’ lives.”
Under current New Jersey law, 16- and 17-year-olds are allowed to marry with parental consent, and children 15 and younger are allowed to marry with the permission of a judge. The bill would outlaw both of those practices. If the bill passes, it would make New Jersey only the second state in the country to ban child marriage. Delaware banned the practice earlier this year.
The bill is supported by a majority of the state’s General Assembly, the legislature’s lower house. A similar bill passed both houses of the state legislature last year, but then-governor Chris Christie required that the bill include the amendment Agudah is seeking, which would allow 16- and 17-year-olds to wed with the permission of their parents and a judge.
“Minors must be protected, and we applaud the attempt of the sponsors to protect children and underage girls from very unfortunate situations,” Agudah’s Schnall said. “A 17-year-old girl shouldn’t be getting married by herself, on her own. Take her before a judge. We have confidence that the judge will make the right decision.”
But the bill’s sponsors disagree, and have reintroduced it this year now that Democratic Gov. Phil Murphy has replaced Christie. The current bill was supposed to be voted on last week, but was removed from the agenda after Assemblyman Gary Schaer, who has spoken with Agudah on the issue, raised concerns about it. Schaer, who is Orthodox, has said he opposes the bill because of Agudah’s objections.
But speaking to JTA, Schaer avoided discussing religion, and said he just believes the bill is too absolute. To illustrate his qualms, he spoke of a hypothetical example of a 17-year-old girl who is pregnant but cannot marry the baby’s father because of the law.
“To have a situation where we’re creating an absolute — if you’re 18 you can get married, if you’re under 18 you can’t — that to me is a problem,” he said. “There needs to be some room for maneuvering, for the reality of the human condition.”
Regardless of Schaer’s opposition, the bill is expected to pass the assembly vote this week; once it clears both houses, Murphy is expected to sign it. The bill’s lead sponsor, Assemblywoman Nancy Munoz, noted that of the more than 3,000 minors married in New Jersey between 1995 and 2015, 95% were 16 or 17. So creating an exemption for those ages, she said, would make the bill pointless.
Munoz, who is a nurse by profession, told JTA that guarding the rights of children is one of her focuses as a legislator. She said religious concerns should not trump protections afforded by secular law.
“We’re doing the bill so there won’t be exceptions to it,” she said. “Much of my legislation has to do with protecting people from abuse and putting them in a safe situation. We don’t allow 16 year olds to drive a car. We don’t allow 17 year olds to vote. The age of majority in New Jersey is 18.”
Reiss, who attended a haredi high school, remembers attending parties for classmates who got married while still in school. She says entering a marriage as a child is a situation fraught with danger, as children are not allowed to leave home, enter into their own contracts or retain an attorney. She said it’s unclear if a child is allowed to file for divorce in New Jersey. She also noted that the State Department considers child marriage to be gender discrimination and a human rights issue.
She said that given how vulnerable children are, it would be wrong to make child marriage subject to the review of a judge — regardless of the child’s age.
“We know the judicial review process is not protecting children,” she said. “We’re going to apply that flawed process to the 95% of children affected by the exemption? It’s like banning age discrimination practices, except for job candidates over age 50.”